When i die

We live in an era where people have the liberty to highlight what they would want others to contribute to them at different key stages of life. You've ever attended a certain wedding meeting and seen a budget that the couple couldn't afford, but they trust their friends to raise the funds for them. A baby shower, where some ladies raise money to spend in a serene place, that could have been used for the hospital bills.

Anyway, I'm here to also highlight what I would wish for, on the day you hear that I am gone. Gone? Why am I rushing, you ask? Death, my friend, is a reality too. It may come sooner than we hoped, so we ought prepare and wait for it, just like we eagerly await a wedding day. 

For the record, I have no medical diagnosis of any terminal/related illness and i'm considerably at my very best in other capitals of life at this moment of writing. But i know one day & it's not optional, I will be gone. Definitely my desire is to die of old age, in good health, surrendering my soul. This is something I have asked of God, for I know no man can give it. However, what I ask of you, should I die in that manner, or if God allows me to depart earlier, is not to cry despairingly. 

Please, don't cry for me! I say this not from a proud standpoint and i'm also aware that i'm not entitled to everyone's tears. I am particularly referring to some family members, some old-time friends, colleagues, employers, partners, and those whom I have influenced in some way and  naturally, may feel indebted or realize a form of loss and thereafter cry, mourn, or sympathize with themselves. I am expressing that my desire would be for you, not to cry for me when I am gone. I'm referring especially to those who bewail sorrowfully as if all hope is gone.

I have been contemplating death for some time now, and have resolved that death for a believer is the best event. To be united with our creator, to have an end to the trials and troubles of this world, to put an end to these endless bills, demands and worries, and on the other side, to be fully united with the one who has no imperfections. To be transformed into a new body that knows no sin, no sickness, and is fully alive is the best event to look forward to. When I die, I will have been promoted to the best form of any human being. This, I firmly believe!

So, without you being selfish, why would you cry? Why would you mourn with despair, for me when I am eagerly looking forward to it? If you cry, you will be crying for yourself. I have conveyed this to my wife, parents, siblings, and will eventually, to my children when they are of understanding. I desire my send off to be quiet. Let there be no special tomb for it will burden my grandkids when they desire to sell the land - maybe a tree on top of my coffin is enough but ignore the cement & tile bills please. I always desire not to burden anyone even in my death especially with additional bills.  I desire everyone around me to become accustomed to the idea that I will be gone one day, and that I have personally made peace with my departure, whether it is the end I desire or any other end. When I am finally gone, I don't want them to mourn or be burdened like those who have no hope or insight about the most expected eventuality in life. 

I pray that you find closure in knowing that we all die, and we should prepare for it. We should find peace within ourselves and also prepare those around us, so that their lives transition normally when we are gone.

Please, don't cry for me when I am gone. I trust that I will be in a better place, instead gather up some of these facts and rejoice for i will have gone home and I hope you join me there too when your turn comes.